You Don’t Need Anyone’s Approval to Feel Better About Yourself.

I should probably tell you about this one time I dressed up. Like, really dressed up because of a guy. I remember doing my makeup and what was on my mind was how surprised he’d be to see me and how I would take his breath away. I was positive that he will not be looking at anyone else but me. I wanted to look mature and I wanted to be the centre of attraction so I allowed my friend to plaster heavy colours on my face in the name of makeup. (I should have a picture somewhere but I’m not about to embarrass the people I care about).

The endpoint of this story is that he invited another girl over who had lighter makeup on and she spent the whole day with him. I was just there, looking at them, feeling uncomfortable with my face, and totally annoyed.

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Sam Smith and Burnaboy actually made magic.

Where was I? Okay, there’s this confidence that makeup gives a person especially when it’s really good. Its art and art should be appreciated. But the issue here was that I didn’t wear makeup for myself on that day. As a matter of fact, I didn’t even appreciate myself at that point and all that mattered was this guy’s approval. When he didn’t even acknowledge it, my level of confidence automatically reduced. Lol. Just imagine going through the stress of sitting in one place for close to an hour and applying makeup for a boy and he doesn’t even appreciate it. Sigh. I was young and inexperienced, forgive me. I was expecting a compliment from him but he probably thought I was a joke. I can’t even blame him. I was painted like a clown. I didn’t even take his breath away…

You may have made or you’re still making the same mistake I made that time, doing stuff to impress people, to get their approval, or to fit in. Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong with dressing to impress. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to boost your confidence level. The mistake you’d make is if you do them for the wrong reasons.

Whatever you do, ensure that you do it for yourself. People and their opinions matter but you matter more. Don’t lose your self worth because you’re trying to impress someone else.

Found this on Twitter.

The plain truth is that if you don’t appreciate yourself first, nobody will appreciate you. If you look down on yourself, people will look down on you. If you cannot find happiness within yourself, how do you expect to find it in other people?

You should ask yourself specific questions sometimes. Questions like “what exactly am I doing this for?”, “am I happy with this decision?”, “am I doing this for myself or for someone else?” “am I comfortable in my own skin?” And mind you, these questions aren’t limited to dressing alone because there are decisions we make on certain issues in life based on the need to get approval from people, some of them being people that we should not even bother about.

If I had just taken time to actually appreciate myself, I’m very sure I’d have gone out with my bare face and I would have had fun without having second thoughts. Also, if I had decided that I was beautiful with my makeup on, I wouldn’t have cared about his approval and I definitely would not have needed his compliments to make me feel good about myself. It’s history now and I know that I can’t make that same mistake again because I’m totally comfortable in my skin.

Insecurities come at times but I manage them by reminding myself that there’s no one like me. You can do the same too because you’re unique and you do not need anyone’s approval to feel better about yourself. Also, if you feel like there’s a change you have to make, a change that will benefit you, please go for it. Don’t discourage yourself with “what ifs”. As they say, the world will adjust.

We’re done with random thoughts for today. Thanks for stopping by.

Love,

Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

HAPPY NEW MONTH!! 💜🥳

I’ve been MIA and I’m sorry. My life outside the blog caught up with me.

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My Mum Misses Me 💜

Since I gained admission into the university, this is the first time I’m staying back at school and not traveling home for the holidays. This is a change in my routine and although I miss home, I really like it here ‘cos I’m just chilling and doing nothing except working on my project ‘cos it’s the main reason I stayed behind in the first place. Honestly when it comes to chilling in your own space with food, electricity, data and movies, there is no argument that it’s a safe space and with the stress of exams, it’s exactly what I needed. The only disadvantage right now is that the guys in my lodge have managed to successfully convince me to become their cook. 😂 It’s all part of the fun anyways.

Pree the fine girl 😌💜

Currently listening to Nobody by Dj Neptune, Joeboy and Mr. Eazi. Update your playlist dears.

Now, where was I? Okay I was talking about the holidays. When you’re in 100 level, there’s every tendency that you’ll be rushing to go home after exams (and honestly, when you eventually get used to the school system, you’ll be wondering what used to chase you to the house). Don’t get me wrong tho’, there’s no place like home and most times, we tend to miss our family but as we get older, we gradually begin to become independent hence our reluctance to rush home immediately after exams.

I’m not in 100 level anymore.

My mum misses me. She told me to come home and honestly I’d have gone but I have so much work to do and the holiday is pretty short so I just decided to stay back and be useful to myself. I miss you too mummy, I’m coming. The perks of having cool parents like I have is that they understand my reasons for making some decisions and they totally support me except they feel like there’s a better option. Some of my friends were surprised that I stayed back and some of them were like “their family will not hear of it”. 😂 I don’t exactly blame those families because some of us actually need to be threatened before we go back home. Others are begged to come home while others are handed an ultimatum: “I want to see you at home by Friday” and who are you to say you’re not going home? 😂

I’m not trying to snitch on anyone 🌚 especially not myself but we know that most of us that don’t go home during holidays don’t go home for other reasons that are not school related 🌚🌚🌚. I’m stopping here abeg 😂😂😂 All I’m going to say is that you should be good. That’s all. That’s all oh. End of story.

Moving on, my birthday is exactly a week from today and I don dey old 😫😂. I was beginning to feel like I did last year when I was scared about entering my 20s because I was basically IN BETWEEN choices and feeling like I hadn’t achieved enough but then I told myself that if I was able to survive this past year, I’d survive anything. I was listening to Hillsong’s 2013 album, We are Young and Free yesterday and I could relate to most of the lyrics of the song and I realized how faithful God has been.

Hair, Makeup & Photography by Padora Morr

I had a makeover today, guys. If you know me, you’ll know how much I love makeup but you won’t catch me on it because I honestly cannot draw perfect brows or do anything makeup related so you only see me like this once in three or four months. This particular makeover is a birthday present from my friend and course mate, Padora Morr. You can check her Instagram here. She was so nice and she entertained all my gists. She also kept saying “dooh girl”. She basically turned me into a princess!

One more 💜

These were supposed to be pre-birthday pictures but they leaked already because my friends can’t be trusted smh. I’m dreading the ugly pictures they’re going to upload on my special day 😫

I just realized that I didn’t say a proper hello when I started and I’m sorry. I really hope you’re good ‘cos I’m doing great. I told you I was going to be back to remind you about my birthday and that’s exactly what I came to do. Now, I’m going to make myself useful. Till next time, everyone.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

What are your thoughts about going home immediately after exams?

What methods do/did your parents use to get you to come back home?

What do you think about my makeover pictures?

Are my birthday presents intact?

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