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GUEST POST: What People think Depression is vs. What it Really is – Miracle Dickson.

Hello, everyone! Welcome to Ruonaahsculture. Today, we have a guest in the house and she’s no other person than Miracle Dickson!

Miracle is a freelancer who has been writing content for over 3 years. She provides ghostwriting, SEO writing, and editing services on Upwork and Freelancer. When she is not engrossed in writing, she loves to cook and travel. She lives in Port Harcourt, Nigeria with her family.

Today, our guest will be correcting some misconceptions about depression and she’ll also tell us how we can help our loved ones who are depressed.

Let’s get to the blog post, shall we?

People have so many misconceptions about depression and this makes it difficult to improve the lives of those who face this serious mental health condition. I only just managed to recover from mine.

Depression is a complex health challenge, hence the complexity that leads to various myths and misunderstandings for some people. While some people function relatively well, others may feel too exhausted to do anything. You must realize depression is different for people. This way, you can easily communicate with a family member or friend dealing with it.

Depression is not just sadness.

Depression makes an impact on everything that concerns a person, not just in a form of panic attacks. It is not just someone wanting to die or frowning all the time. Depression could come from feeling horrible guilt. It is the feeling of constant frustration, irritation, endless intrusive thoughts, loneliness, maddening anxiety, feeling disconnected from the world, and constant sadness.

Depression for me, came with so much anxiety. I used to feel frustrated and alone, even when I had people around me. During this period, I noticed a lot of misconceptions from people. They assumed I was fine because I wasn’t having panic attacks or crying in their presence. They saw a girl who posted memes and happy pictures but underneath all these, I was plagued with constant fear and anxiety that I couldn’t fathom.

These thoughts of “she smiles all the time”, “she’s good”, “how can you be depressed”, “You look happy” may be wrong. Smiling depression is a real problem we have to take note of. A lot of people out there are experiencing depression but mask their symptoms, they hide behind a smile to convince people that they are happy. Thus, their depression goes undetected. When people imagine a depressed individual, all they see is someone who looks very sad, unable to have any fun – A depressed person could be a happy-looking brother, sister, colleague, or friend sitting right next to you.

Depression is a serious issue.

Another misconception about depression is that it is not a serious issue but the truth is that it is. You must realize that if you don’t allow open communication with those around you on the severity of depression, people will continue to struggle in silence. Someone I know laughed at me when I opened up about being depressed. I was told to go drink wine, have a good sleep and I’ll feel better. Funny right?

It is reactions like this that make people continue to bite their tongues in fear that they may be ridiculed or not taken seriously. This could lead to putting on a brave face for the people around them without ever healing or working on themselves. Like me, I had to put on a brave face for a while.

Bring your loved ones closer, keep an eye on them, don’t make them believe depression is a sign of weakness or a character flaw. Depression isn’t something you can just “snap out of”. If you make them feel this way, they’ll start trying hard to snap out of it and when they cannot, they feel something is strong with them. Consequently, they feel embarrassed about having depression because they think they should be able to handle themselves.

People can have everything they want still feel depressed.

I noticed that some people think that once you have all you want, you can’t feel depressed. This is wrong. Someone can have a child, a job, a husband, and still be depressed. With the different social media portraying happiness in unrealistic ways, people still feel like they don’t have enough even when they get what they want. This is not a day to talk about social media but you see a good friend who just landed a job, you tell yourself “he has made it in life, he has absolutely nothing to worry about”. No, No, No. Please snap out of that thought. They may look like they are all good but you still need to pay attention to them and look for the signs I mentioned earlier.

Now that you know what depression is, you can help your loved ones by:

  • Learning about what your loved ones may be going through, you could find out more about depression or anxiety. This can help you understand exactly how your loved ones feel.
  • Open your arms towards them, listen, choose a time and place you are both comfortable with. Don’t push them if they don’t want to spill it all, just let them know you care.
  • Take their feelings seriously, acknowledge what’s happening to them, and let them know you understand. Don’t tell them their feelings are weird.
  • Help them find professional support. It may be daunting to see a professional, but you can offer your support by encouraging them to speak to a professional. Not everyone wants to see a professional face to face, you can recommend hotlines.

You’ve read from Miracle and from what she’s told us, depression is not a joke. Please do not downplay how a person might be feeling and also, please try to be sensitive because depression is a serious mental condition.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

How are you doing? Please don’t air me.

Also, don’t forget to check Miracle Dickson out.

Which of these misconceptions did you have?

Have you ever been depressed? What was it like for you?

Please put your thoughts in the comment section. You know how much I love reading from you! 💜

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Fall in Love with my top 5 Scenes from Bridgerton

A disclaimer is in order as I’d like to let you know that the only reason I watched the first season of Bridgerton, a trending series on Netflix is because I was pressured into seeing what the fuss was all about.

Did I regret it? No.

This isn’t a review but if you’re not into love, romance and matchmaking, you might not find Bridgerton interesting and you might probably end up like someone I know who sleeps within the first five minutes of watching a movie.

It is assumed that if I have seen this series, the entire world has seen it because what time do I have for movies these days? However, it is out of the kindness of my heart that I’m telling you that this blog post contains spoilers. I can’t have you hate me later. You’ve been forewarned.

When I started the series, I didn’t know what to expect. All I know is that this guy was everywhere on social media and I wasn’t finding it funny.

Regé-Jean Page, the Duke of Hastings 🤤

But I get it now, I do. Some people are fine and others are fineeeeee!!! Regé-Jean Page killed his role as Simon, the Duke of Hastings, and yeah, that’s it.

I was captivated by the series, no lies. I was awake all night watching and when I eventually slept, I dreamt about some scenes and I’m not even joking. I’ll be sharing my top five scenes in Bridgerton with you in no particular order. I’ve seen these scenes at least twice since I completed the series because I can’t help myself.

So we have:

The scene where Simon Confesses his love for Daphne to the Queen:

Look at that! No, just look at that!! His words made me swoon. This scene was so pure. Look at how she was looking at him 🥺. If I was the one being talked about like that, I’d have started weeping on the spot. Although the Duke said these things to convince the queen to allow him to marry Daphne, he meant every word. This scene is everything. God when? 😭😭😭

The scene where Daphne’s mum tries to explain sex to her on her wedding day:

So in the movie, Daphne is innocent and she knows absolutely nothing about sexual intercourse. On her wedding day, her mum tries to explain it to her and her discomfort was hilarious 😂😂😂

Daphne’s expression 😂😂😂

It was quite funny to watch this woman explain sex to her child because I could relate it to how some of our mothers shy away from the subject and fail to give proper sex education. Most times, girls have to get these lessons elsewhere. Daphne suffered because of this lack of knowledge but she pulled through.

The famous scene where they burned for each other:

After watching the scene, this was me:

I mean, look at this drama. We get that he was filled with passion but did he have to shout? 😂

“When one buurrrrrnnnnssss” 😂

It didn’t stop there. The babe burned too 😌.

Immediately she said that line, I was like “Pele o, hellfire” 😂😭

Anyway, the scene was intense and the only people we’re considering this year are people that buuuurrrrnnnn for us. Amen?

The “I love you, I love all of you” scene:

I can relate to this scene because I have given speeches like this one to people I love and have loved before and even though most of them ended in tears, I’m glad that this one did not end in tears and things fell into place. Love is a beautiful thing, please.

And…

The scene that unmasked Lady Whistledown:

I never would have suspected that Penelope will be Lady Whistledown. I read somewhere that we should never underestimate a wallflower. The truth of the matter is that the people we think are insignificant or of no consequence are often the people that wield power. I’m still in shock!

There you have it tho’ – my top 5 scenes. If you didn’t know before, I guess it’s now obvious that I’m an incurable romantic and I love to love, and just in case you weren’t aware, Bridgerton was adapted from the novels by Julia Quinn – The Bridgerton series. Those books are eight and as much as I love reading, I don’t think I’ll read all of them. I’ve already started the first book – “The Duke and I”.

I cannot wait for season two.

Love,

‘Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

How was your week?

Have you seen Bridgerton? Did you like it?

You’ve not seen it? Will you?

What are your top scenes?

How about your worst scenes?

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