Posted in Random

Christmas, Chicken, and Vibes!

Crown me “Best in Multitasking” because I’m frying chicken, singing, dancing, and writing this. No, I’m not lying.

Currently listening to The Spirituals.

Merry Christmas, loves!! 🎉 It is with joy and gladness in my heart that I announce that today is my daddy’s birthday and I’m his favorite child so I’m receiving gifts 😌.

For the record, Dr. Asak’s birthday is in April. It’s Jesus, my sky daddy we’re celebrating today.

I didn’t think that I’d be happy today, considering the fact that I’m alone in Gombe and I miss my family. My friends traveled and I’ve just been chilling on my own. I’m even going to the radio station later today for a programme. Who works on Christmas day?

Chicken stew don ready.

Anyway, I woke up happy and so far, the highlight of my day is that my Muslim neighbour bought a lot of chicken for us to celebrate with. I got drinks so we’re just going to have a feast. I’m not expecting visitors and I don’t think he is either. We move! 😂

So, quick one yeah? This isn’t supposed to be a motivational speech. We’re just talking okay? Some of us have a lot of reasons to be angry, sad or frustrated this period and it’s easy to allow all the negativity consume you but the truth is, no matter how frustrated you are or how much you frown or complain, whatever issues you have will not magically disappear.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with optimism. Nobody is saying that you shouldn’t be realistic but what use is anger and complaints when it won’t change anything? You’re just wasting your time. Instead, lets take one day at a time. This is what I’ve slowly begun to learn and tbh, there’s a lot to be grateful for. Anytime I start thinking that I’m broke or stressed, I remember that there are hungry children on the street but I have a roof over my head, I have an education and I can give to people. That’s a lot to be grateful for.

I almost burned the rice.

So, in our festivities, let’s remember to be happy because problem no dey finish. Let’s also give back to people if we can. We’ll be fine eventually.

Time to gbedu. Ed Sheeran made this song his own!

I’m almost done cooking. I still don’t get the concept of cooking for over 2 hours just to eat for 10-20 minutes. Come on! Anyway, it’s Christmas.

Merry Christmas, again. Don’t forget that Jesus is the reason for the season. I love you and there’s nothing you can do about it.


‘Ruona ❤️


The featured image above is of my beautiful friend Lauren, captured by my other friend, Dennis (Dennography).

How are you spending Christmassss?

What do you think of this Peru remix with Ed Sheeran?

What music are you currently listening to?

Please leave a comment in the comments box below. You know how much I love reading from you. Have a great day! 💜

Posted in Personal


Life is funny, in many ways than one. Personally, I think the funniest aspect of life is how someone could be here one day and gone the next. I don’t think I’ll ever wrap my head around it, especially since losing someone I care about is one of my fears.

In the space of one year, I lost two people I cared about. How do others do it? How do they remain so strong? Uncle D left us in October 2020. I cried when I was telling Granny. She shook her head and sympathized with me. Who would have thought that we’d lay her to rest just a year after? It was a lot for me, tbh. She left us when I was in camp and I didn’t even get to say goodbye.

This was the last picture I took with Granny, the last time I saw her.

They say it gets easier but does it? Does it really? That’s life for you anyway. Like I said, life is funny.

Let me tell you about my Granny, the only grandparent I ever knew. I won’t be able to tell you about her the way her biography did (you can read it in the PDF file below) but I’ll tell you about her the way I knew her.

Granny told me that I was the first person to call her “Granny”. I knew her by this name before I ever knew her name. This was the name she was fondly called by everyone who knew her.

Fine woman 😍

My Grandmother was beautiful, both inside and out. For as long as I can remember, Granny always made sure that I had Starch and Banga soup to eat anytime I came visiting. She cooked with love and Sunday afternoons were my best because we had all the rice to eat. She sewed beautiful clothes for us and even when she couldn’t do these anymore, she made sure we got them. I remember her sending Beatrice to buy Starch for me and I remember her giving Sophia directions on how to cut fabric for sewing. She was a giver. She always made sure you left her house with somthing, no matter how small. She devoted her time, all the time. When I had a major accident when I was little, she stayed in the hospital with me until I recovered, not minding the inconvenience.

Some of my cousins, the grandchildren.

Granny was great company. She was always ready to listen to all of my rants and there’s no way you could have a conversation with her without breaking into laughter because Granny spoke fluent sarcasm. I looked forward to the advice she gave because she always encouraged us to be better than we are. She reminded us to be focused and that God was number one in our lives. When she prayed, Granny would always end with “remain blessed”.

Granny was hardworking. She expected us to be up early in the morning and by 5:00 am, she already had her morning tea. On the times when we didn’t wake up early, she’d come to pinch us. I used to grumble because she used to wake me up when the sleep was the sweetest but I would give anything to have her pinch me right now. She didn’t tolerate laziness and she loved it when her house was clean. We learned early enough to just do what Granny asked us to do because she would disturb you until you had complied. She took care of us.

Granny’s children and their spouses.

Words cannot perfectly describe the fond memories I have of her and words cannot describe how much I miss her, how much we miss her. What I miss most about Granny is her laughter. Her laughter was soft like music and it made me smile. I remember her watching me and shaking her head with laughter, probably thinking “this my grandpikin ehn”. I also miss analyzing movies with her. Granny would not allow you watch a movie till the end without telling you the plot and asking questions. I also miss her hugs. Every time I was going back to school, Granny would pull me into a hug and pray for me. The last time I told her goodbye before going to school, she kissed my forehead and said “remain blessed”.

So Granny, Degwo. You’re gone now but you’re still alive in our hearts. I am blessed because you were in my life. I am blessed because I got to call you my grandmother. I still hear your voice in my head and I always imagined that you’d be here forever. You were here my whole life! I am not going to think about all the things that I won’t get to do with you anymore because I had 22 beautiful years with you. I am grateful for these memories and I will make you proud. 

I know you’re in a better place because you loved the Lord and served Him with all your heart. I know you are resting in Peace. I love you so much.

Granny lived. She did. She was laid to rest on the 26th of November at Odi, Bayelsa state. I don’t know how to round this up except to say that I don’t want to lose anyone again. I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it so I pray that God in His infinite mercy will keep us all.


‘Ruona. ❤️