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You Cannot Please the World.

Not everybody will like you and that’s okay. It is fine because how many people do you want to impress really? Thinking about it, what’s there to gain especially if you have to pretend, make yourself uncomfortable and unhappy?

It’s very easy to say “Not everyone will like you” but sometimes, we forget that trying to please people or being concerned about what they think is part of being human. We care about what people think and we often want family, friends, and even strangers to like us. It’s how we’re wired. However, the honest reality is that not everyone will like the way you dress, how you think, and even you as a person. Sometimes, it’s because they don’t know you, and other times, it’s just because nothing you do will ever seem right in their eyes and as I said, it’s okay.

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Have you observed that it can be exhausting when you have to think about what each person will like? You want to please A and at the same time, you’re worried about pleasing B and you put so much effort into what they would like. Sometimes, you don’t even realize that you’re doing it. There was a point in my life where I cared so much about people liking me. I never wanted to get on their bad sides even when I wasn’t happy with whatever situation I was in. I wanted to be everyone’s friend and being everyone’s friend is not easy at all. I mean, people always have opinions on how you should live your life and it’s stressful, trying to fit in with their ideas on how your life should be. I learned that you cannot please everyone so I started filtering whatever opinions people had to give and listening to myself instead. It took a while but when I was finally able to rise above what everyone thought, it became easier.

you cannot please everyone

At first, it would seem like you’re on your own but at least you’re original. Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people. You’ll find that the version of themselves being presented to the outside world is fake because they often suppress a lot of their opinions and emotions because they want to fit in. In the end, a person may not show the stuff he/she is made of because he/she is too busy letting people decide who he/she gets to be.

Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine too. This is because, in growth, we learn that some people don’t fit in with what we believe in or that with them, there’s no common goal. Some people realize this and leave such circles but others stay because they’re scared of what people will say. They don’t leave their comfort zone and most times, they don’t fulfil potential because they care about what people will say.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine.

It’s heartbreaking when people don’t get to try something new or develop their ideas because they feel that people will not like it. Why don’t you take the risk and find other people who have the same mind as you and will resonate with whatever it is that’s going on in your head? Some people will say “when you’re in Rome, act like the Romans” but for how long? You’re not Roman.

Truth is that no matter what you do and no matter how hard you try, you will not be liked by everyone because there are people who won’t like you for no just reason and you’ll just be wasting precious time, trying to please them. I mean, you don’t even like everyone so why should you go through all the stress of trying to make the whole world happy? Just do you and make you happy okay?

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️.

How are you doing? Don’t air me please.

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt you had to please people?

What’s one thing about you that nobody will ever change?

Have you ever left a circle or group of friends because you realized that they were holding you back?

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Mistakes? Yes. Learning? Yes.

4:16 am: Currently listening to Promises by Maverick City Music.

Hi, I missed you. We’re in 2021, not much has changed but we give God the praise. Happy New Year.

As much as I started this year with hope, I didn’t start with much enthusiasm because I wish the year started under different circumstances but it is what it is.

How are you doing? Is this year treating you right? I’m alright if you’re asking. I came into this year with my sense of humor so that’s okay yeah? It seems like January will be a long one and I hope you’re prepared because how is today still the 8th? I mean, by this time last year, it was already my birthday!

Do you remember the guy who threw the cob of corn he was eating at me last year? If you didn’t read the gist or you’ve forgotten, you can read it right here. Well, he said he’s sorry. He didn’t even realize what he had done. He just wanted to know why I stopped talking to him. He had been trying to talk to me on numerous occasions since I got back home but I always ignored him. One day, he just shouted “it’s not fair o. What did I do?” so I stopped and reminded him and you should have seen the expression on his face. He apologized and kept asking for forgiveness for the next few days after that, using the famous “to err is human and to forgive is divine” line. He’s been forgiven but I don’t think I want the whole relationship to continue. It was annoying but I know people make mistakes and some of them deserve second chances.

Speaking of mistakes, is anyone really above making them? Who is that perfect? I know I’m not but I try, keyword being try. Most mistakes that people make are never intentional. I mean, it’s not like that girl plans to burn the pot of stew her mother asked her to warm because she’s engrossed in a series or she’s chatting with a man (Mummy, I’m sorry for all the food I burned. I was young and inexperienced 🤲) or it’s not like that person meant to lash out and say those horrible words to you (although, the person may have meant to because there’s nothing stopping people from being horrible these days). Let’s just leave the mistakes at surface level, shall we? I’m not putting an unwanted pregnancy as part of my list of mistakes because obviously, you knew what would happen when you were doing the do unprotected.

Anyways, the thing is that we have made and we will make mistakes, and even if we can’t do anything about our mother’s pots of food that we destroyed, we can make conscious decisions to pay attention in the kitchen so we don’t make the same mistakes again. The same goes for every other mistake, what effort are you making to make things right again?

Most times, it’s not even a person’s mistake that defines the individual. It’s what the person does after that does. In fact, why should your mistakes define you? If you fall, you get up again and keep moving. If you fail, you rise again and keep learning because in the end, mistakes might happen and you might not see them coming but it doesn’t have to define you.

Funny enough when I tweeted this, I didn’t know what I’d publish.

So like I said, mistakes are inevitable, and just in case they happen, it’s not the end of the world but if you can avoid them, please do in Jesus’ name. In case it’s too late, do not let it define you. Pick yourself up and move on.

5:08 am: Currently listening to Most Beautiful by Maverick City Music.

This year just started and nobody knows what the coming months will bring but this is just me reminding you that it’s okay to make mistakes. I might make some mistakes too but will I learn from them or let them define me? I have learned that life is a learning process so don’t stop trying because what is perfect really?

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

How has your year been so far? Any good news? Please share!

Who else thinks that this year is moving too slowly?

Have you made mistakes? Yes or yes? How did you deal with them?

Do you think I should still be friendly towards that guy?

Do you believe that there are people that are perfect or above mistakes?

Have you listened to Maverick City Music?

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