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You Don’t Need Anyone’s Approval to Feel Better About Yourself.

I should probably tell you about this one time I dressed up. Like, really dressed up because of a guy. I remember doing my makeup and what was on my mind was how surprised he’d be to see me and how I would take his breath away. I was positive that he will not be looking at anyone else but me. I wanted to look mature and I wanted to be the centre of attraction so I allowed my friend to plaster heavy colours on my face in the name of makeup. (I should have a picture somewhere but I’m not about to embarrass the people I care about).

The endpoint of this story is that he invited another girl over who had lighter makeup on and she spent the whole day with him. I was just there, looking at them, feeling uncomfortable with my face, and totally annoyed.

Currently playing:

Sam Smith and Burnaboy actually made magic.

Where was I? Okay, there’s this confidence that makeup gives a person especially when it’s really good. Its art and art should be appreciated. But the issue here was that I didn’t wear makeup for myself on that day. As a matter of fact, I didn’t even appreciate myself at that point and all that mattered was this guy’s approval. When he didn’t even acknowledge it, my level of confidence automatically reduced. Lol. Just imagine going through the stress of sitting in one place for close to an hour and applying makeup for a boy and he doesn’t even appreciate it. Sigh. I was young and inexperienced, forgive me. I was expecting a compliment from him but he probably thought I was a joke. I can’t even blame him. I was painted like a clown. I didn’t even take his breath away…

You may have made or you’re still making the same mistake I made that time, doing stuff to impress people, to get their approval, or to fit in. Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong with dressing to impress. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to boost your confidence level. The mistake you’d make is if you do them for the wrong reasons.

Whatever you do, ensure that you do it for yourself. People and their opinions matter but you matter more. Don’t lose your self worth because you’re trying to impress someone else.

Found this on Twitter.

The plain truth is that if you don’t appreciate yourself first, nobody will appreciate you. If you look down on yourself, people will look down on you. If you cannot find happiness within yourself, how do you expect to find it in other people?

You should ask yourself specific questions sometimes. Questions like “what exactly am I doing this for?”, “am I happy with this decision?”, “am I doing this for myself or for someone else?” “am I comfortable in my own skin?” And mind you, these questions aren’t limited to dressing alone because there are decisions we make on certain issues in life based on the need to get approval from people, some of them being people that we should not even bother about.

If I had just taken time to actually appreciate myself, I’m very sure I’d have gone out with my bare face and I would have had fun without having second thoughts. Also, if I had decided that I was beautiful with my makeup on, I wouldn’t have cared about his approval and I definitely would not have needed his compliments to make me feel good about myself. It’s history now and I know that I can’t make that same mistake again because I’m totally comfortable in my skin.

Insecurities come at times but I manage them by reminding myself that there’s no one like me. You can do the same too because you’re unique and you do not need anyone’s approval to feel better about yourself. Also, if you feel like there’s a change you have to make, a change that will benefit you, please go for it. Don’t discourage yourself with “what ifs”. As they say, the world will adjust.

We’re done with random thoughts for today. Thanks for stopping by.


Ruona. ❤️



I’ve been MIA and I’m sorry. My life outside the blog caught up with me.

How are you really? What have you been up to these past 2 weeks?

Have you had a similar experience to the one I just shared?

Do you agree with what I’ve said?

What part of this post got to you?

Please let me know in the comment box below. You know how much I love hearing from you. 💜💜💜



My name is Oseruona Asak, but I'll let you call me ‘Ruona. I haven't found the perfect words to describe me yet but I’m very passionate about those things that are close to my heart, including sharing my thoughts with you.

47 thoughts on “You Don’t Need Anyone’s Approval to Feel Better About Yourself.

  1. Thank you for sharing Ruonah 💕
    Finding happiness with yourself is really important, find ways to make yourself happy/happier.
    I think its selfish to expect your happiness to come from someone else or to expect someone else to make you happy.
    Of course, there will be people that make you feel happy, the point is this should not be your primary source of happiness, you’ll just end up being let down over and over again and its no one’s fault but yours tbh
    However, Jesus gives happiness 😂 Choose Jesus today.

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    1. I said you should start your own blog. I’ll remind you again. Nobody should be your primary source of happiness!! Choose Jesus!!!
      Thank you for stopping by. 💜


  2. Happy New Month baby!!
    I am fine, thank God and I’ve been job hunting. Really need a job to get busy.
    I once took a stupid decision not to wear trousers coz my first love said he doesn’t like them but at the end he started making money and girls on bum shorts got his attraction. Las las, he married one of them. I went back to being me but my regrets are the hot bum shorts and jeans I burnt coz of an idiot.
    You’re absolutely right.
    The part that shocked me was nigga choosing a girl he felt cool over you and you were still sitting in the same place with him😂😂😂😂😂 Omo if na me ehhhhh, na to carry myself jejely go house 😂

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    1. Lol please, don’t attack me. I was young and foolish 😂

      This is why we should only do what makes us happy. We can’t keep putting other people before our happiness. It’s wrong.

      I hope you find a job soon. Thank you boo!


  3. Lol this is very relatable and I have learnt that If I want to slay, I should slay for myself , not anyone else, most times guys don’t like the heavy make up we put on and the wigs and all that, I’ve been told countless times that I look prettier without these things, so I don’t stress no more, the person who will love you , will love you for who you are and not how you look.

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  4. There’s this confidence one has when one dresses up for him/herself . That feeling is so out of the world💆💆💆. Unless someone makes a nasty comment and everything vanishes. 😥😥😥

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  5. This right here is the content I like to see. You said it all babe, feeling inferior is a thing that really needs to stop amongst us. well done and this is a nice blog post too😊

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  6. Exactly o Ruona, Preach !!! Spread the word!! You no dey owe anybody anything, wear what you like and do what you like so far it’s not directly affecting anybody and it’s something you enjoy please carry on with 1000000% Confidence 😎. (This advice is not for serial killers )

    I’m sha fine, Thanks for asking 😁.

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  7. Great read. Your literary style and writing techniques have improved exponentially and yeah, happiness should come from within. Thank you for sharing.

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  8. I’ve done so many cringe worthy things to impress others.
    But as I have grown, I’ve learnt that to fall in love with yourself first is really the secret to happiness. And when you have learnt to embrace yourself in all your magnificence, you’d never have to look to someone else to make you happy or feel confident because you already have that.
    Really love this post.❤️

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  9. My goodness😂😂
    First off, I always enjoy reading your content Ruona.

    I really cannot relate because right from young, I always had this “Na my mama born me attitude”. I no send anybody ooo
    I do things for me though sometimes I think of what people have to say. I try not to let them take charge of me.

    I totally get this makeup thing😂😂😂, I know a lot of girls have done crazy things for male attention and I wish they could all read this to know that it is not worth it.
    Thank you for this Ruona

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